A couple of weeks ago I was binge watching Netflix’s The Crown, for those unfamiliar it’s all about the first couple years of Queen Elizabeth II reign. I did not intend on getting hooked on it, but ended up watching it all over the weekend. I got really engrossed in it, and at one part a character does something super sneaky and underhanded I muttered “You bitch” to the screen and then it hit me, this is a real person. This isn’t a story that was made up (well OK it sort of is made up since they don’t know the details of every conversation that happened then but you get my point). I know this blog is supposed to be about escaping into fictional words (see what I did there?) but I feel like I tend to really read and love things that actually happened as well. Some of my favorite books are the autobiographies written by bad ass women. I wanted to talk about some of these real life women I love that wrote some great books.
I love bossy women, I love women who are funny, confident and in control. I also love looking into the lives of those inspiring people and see the cracks, the anxiety, and the hard times. Not because I am a monster and enjoy the suffering of others, but because I love watching people succeed and overcome struggles.
I first got into these funny autobiographies thanks to Chelsea Handler, I use to have her entire collection until a book loan mishap happened and I lost all but one. She was really my first introduction to them. Here are some of my favorite books written by bad ass ladies:
Tina Fey’s “Bossy Pants” really sold the genre for me. She is someone I have looked up to for a long time, she’s a great writer and really achieved a lot, being the first female head writer of SNL, and creator and showrunner on 30 Rock. Tina Fey is one of my all-time favorite people. She is pure amazingness and so is her book.
Mindy Kaling. Oh Mindy, Mindy, Mindy. We’ve been lucky with Mindy, because she actually wrote 2 books. Both these books are so sweet and delightful. If you like the Mindy Project then you will really enjoy her books, “Is Everyone Hanging out Without Me” and “Why Not Me?” I love that title. It’s actually become a bit of a mantra for me, Why not me. As a person with crippling self-doubt and anxiety I am always sitting there wishing I could do something, or be like someone and now I answer myself with Why not me? Why can’t I do that and be that?
“Yes Please” by Amy Poehler was a damn life changer. Have you ever picked up a book at a time in your life that you just needed to read? This book and I just clicked. It was exactly what I needed at that time. If I were rich I would buy copies of this book just to hand out to people. She’s already a hilarious person, and it turns out she’s an amazing writer. It felt like sitting and talking to my friend rather than just reading a book.
“You’re Never Weird on the Internet” by Felicia Day. This one was really great, she was very open about her social anxiety and depression. It’s wonderful to read something I could relate to so much. I also got to meet this beautiful ginger angel at a book signing. She stayed hours longer than planned because she wanted everyone that stood in line to be able to meet her and get their books signed. I told her how much I enjoyed her book specifically because I have anxiety and could relate to everything she talked about and she just gave me a big hug and told me to keep fighting through it and showing up to things.
“Scrappy Little Nobody” by Anna Kendrick. This is the most recent one I have read, I was laughing at every single page. Her stories were hilarious, and her perceptions of who she was during that time, like taking pity on past poor sweet Anna who was being duped by a jerk ex. She is a bit of a mess of a person, but she wears that badge proudly. This is another that I loved for how she dealt with her compulsions and anxieties. This one is tied for my favorite with “Yes Please” now.
“Super You” by Emily V Gordon. This isn’t an autobiography but actually a self-help book. I get some self-help books from people at work but typically they are written by rich men who grew up in the 60s or 70s. I’m sure their advice is great, but I find it hard to get into their books because I don’t feel like they can really understand me, a 30-year-old single mom who grew up in the 90s. Emily’s book has some really realistic and manageable advice to overcome problems. It’s never weird or super time-consuming. I highly recommend checking this one out.
These are just some of my favorites out of many MANY others out there. My next to read is “The Princess Diarist” by Carrie Fisher while I hope and pray Kate Mckinnon and Rashida Jones decide to write a book.
Who are some of your favorite bad ass bitches? I mean bitches with every love, because as my queens Tina Fey and Amy Poehler say:
here’s a peek at my collection kick ass memoirs